Do you ever feel like you’re just way too sensitive? “Intention rules the earth,” says Oprah. It’s true.
“What do you want?”
This question might totally throw you off. If you’re like many of my clients, you’ve believed your limiting thoughts for so long, that you don’t realize you can ask for what you truly want and that you have the power to get it! So, naturally, you might do some wonky things at first that actually sabotage an otherwise powerful intention! Here are seven of the most common ways we do that:
#1 – “So that.”
Example: “I intend to lose weight and get in shape SO THAT I can be energetic and happy in my daily life.””So that” says: “I can’t have THIS if I don’t have THAT.” It is restricting. And intentions are about expansion! Be brave enough to ask, “What do I ultimately want here?” If you want two things, you can divide the intentions with AND or WHILE. “I intend to lose weight while being happy and energetic in my daily life.”
#2 – Implementing Bureaucrat Speak Calibrated to Leverage Maximum Capacity Mental Paralysis
Example: “I intend to leverage an incremental degree of financial stability insomuch as I can facilitate a reasonable facsimile of value-added methodology.” When you set an intention, you’re speaking to your soul, not to the folks in HR. Intention is supposed to excite us a lot, and scare us a little. Pretend you never worked in corporate, and use language that feels good to you.
#3 – “Ing” Overdose
Example: “I intend that I am becoming clear about my career path while my health is getting better and I am attracting a loving romantic partner.” In this case, it says, “Yes indeed. You ARE becoming clear. And you are, in fact, ATTRACTING a loving partner… any minute now!” Stick with present tense even though it’s scary.
#4 – Scattered, Splattered and Covered
Example: “I intend to get clear about the next steps I’m taking in my life with health, lifestyle, my relationship, and career. Oh, and I also want to lose weight, make more money, move somewhere else and write a novel.” I call this “Attention Splatter.” It doesn’t work. It’s nothing more than sabotage. Here’s what’s wild, though. When we allow ourselves to focus on one single intention, often the other things we want will begin to happen effortlessly. (OR we come to realize that we no longer want all those things!) Be willing to be unimpressive and boring. Start with just one thing.
#5 – Trying to figure out the HOW.
When you set an intention, you don’t have to know HOW. Yes, of course, you take action. But you don’t “figure it all out” first. Trying to figure out HOW it could possibly happen is just your scarcity mindset trying to take control. (And how’s that been working’ for you so far?)
#6 – Worrying about your ego.
“Isn’t this just my ego talking? How will I know if I’m desiring the right thing? Is this intention my TRUE! LIFE! PURPOSE????” You can spin your wheels for years trying to discover an Academy Award-Winning Life Purpose, or waiting till you’re “totally at peace.” Don’t set this trap for yourself. The simple action right in front of you is all you need to take. (And sometimes, it might be deceptively boring!) If you can’t hear your deepest self yet, then just start somewhere. Maybe your ego’s desires will open up.
#7 – Removing, obliterating, or ridding yourself of obstacles, weakness, and issues.
Example: I intend to rid myself of all of my anger and addictions and stop letting my ego run the show and never have emotions again. This is SO not going to happen. You don’t have to focus on your “stuff” just to prove that you’re not in denial. Remember this: Energy flows where attention goes. When you include your “issues” in your intention, then you are, in essence, saying, “Let’s really give this my energy. Let’s dredge it up, shall we?” Focus instead on the things that you DO want. That way, the obstacles and issues will naturally come up for release in their perfect and right time.