Executive Presentation Skills Coaching

“It’s all right to have butterflies in your stomach. Just get them to fly in formation.” – Rob Gilbert

Just as you would not sign off on financial reports without a thorough understanding of their significance for your company, you also need to understand the full picture of what your presentation is saying about you and your leadership.

Executive Presentation Skills Coaching can transform you into the speaker you want to be.

With a customised, cut-through coaching style, we’ll record your presentation on video and watch it together for a candid critique (with supportive coaching) of what you’re doing right and where you need to change. I’ll help you eliminate distractions, improve your body language and make optimal use of hand gestures and non-verbal signals to the audience.

If you’ve struggled with presentations in the past, you’ll overcome self-doubt and deliver the kind of performance you’re capable of – every time.

If you’re already a good presenter who wants to go “from good to great,” you’ll ramp up your “star power” to help you become an in-demand speaker for conferences and keynotes.

Whether you are preparing for a major presentation or speech, or just want a refresher on your skills, Executive Presentation Skills  Coaching may be the best decision you make.

Charisma. Presence. Persuasiveness. These are almost indefinable qualities that seem to radiate magically from an effective public speaker. But you don’t need to worry about whether you have them because you can learn the behaviours that create them. That’s the concept at the core of my Executive Presentation Skills Coaching program which is custom-made to build your knowledge and abilities quickly. If you’re looking to up your game in professional speaking situations, I can help.

My coaching provides a “toolkit” of methods and approaches that will dramatically improve your confidence and executive presence. You’ll discover your own voice to speak memorably and successfully in any situation. From executive search interviews to pitches, from earnings calls to board presentations, from keynotes to media appearances, you’ll learn how to engage listeners, create emotional connections, and get audiences to perceive you exactly the way you want them to.


This program features 1:1 coaching consisting of 10 hours of private instruction. Choose from the following options:

  • Eight 75-minute weekly sessions  (Standard)
  • Four 2.5-hour sessions (Accelerated)
  • Two 5-hour sessions on consecutive days (Intensive)
  • Presentation Coaching to prepare for a specific event is available on a short-term basis.

Following an assessment, activities and assignments will be customized to closely match your needs and goals.  Extensive videotaping of practice presentations with expert critiques and feedback is a core component of this program.

Final Assessment and Follow-Up

Recommendations for continued individual improvement are provided at the end of the course. Follow-up and ongoing learning is available through telephone, Skype, or in-person sessions.

Send me an email to discuss further…


2nd Quarter Focus

Focus – a little word with amazing power.

We are already in the 2nd quarter of the year and some are wondering where the time has gone. We seem to be lagging behind on our business goals for the 1st quarter and before we know it we will be halfway through the year! As much as we can shift blame to the fact that the 1st quarter is slow, some of our issues have nothing to do with external business factors. Sometimes it is a simple as a lack ofFOCUS

A year ago I read a book called “The One Thing” by Gary Keller, about, doing one thing at a time! When working with my clients, we talk about working smarter, not harder. And this is what happens when we use the power of focus.

But what’s the secret to focusing when there are so many things out there grabbing your attention?

F – Forget things that don’t matter

Don’t waste your life on the small stuff that doesn’t matter! There will always be things on your goal/ desire/to-do list that don’t really need doing. They are those ‘maybe one day jobs’. As you look at your ‘To Do’ list ask yourself, “Will it matter in 1 week, 1 month, 1 year’s time if I don’t do this?” If the answer is ‘no’, then take it off your list.

Remember all the time you’re doing the things that don’t really matter, you could be doing work that increases your networth.

Tip: Does it have to be done by you? Can it be ditched, delayed or delegated? These time-saving questions can be the difference between getting the important stuff done – and not.

O – One thing

Focus on ONE thing. We’re generally not very good at this. We have lots of different things on the go and don’t focus on any of them very well. Instead choose ONE thing to work on and see it through to completion, before moving onto the next shiny object.

The shift to doing only one thing has made an enormous difference to my business. Was it easy? Absolutely not, I have to constantly refocus myself (you’ll often hear me tutting at my desk when I notice I’m getting distracted!). But I keep at it because it’s worth it.

Tip: I recommend you turn off notifications, put your WhatsApp on mute and sign out of different apps to pull it off, but it’s worth the effort. You’ll feel clear and calm about what you’re doing, and each time that task you’re working on gets your undivided attention, you’ll do a better job of it – and probably complete it faster too!

Focus, focus, focus – ONE single task at a time!

C – Clarity

Get absolutely crystal clear on what you want to achieve in your work or business.

It’s easy to think, “I already have a plan”, but what I see is that the plan is often not clear enough. This lack of clarity is what leads us to sit down at our desk and get distracted. A plan should be well enough defined so that when you sit down at your desk, you KNOW what to work on first.

I plan my time now in 3-month blocks, and because of that I’ve had to become super-duper clear on what I’m doing or it won’t happen. I use the fabulousCrossing Boundaries 3-Month Business Plan so that I have clear action steps on what I need to do on a daily basis. (you can email me to purchase a copy)

If you don’t have a plan, then do some brainstorming and get it!

U- Unsubscribe and Ungroup

Unsubscribe from things that don’t support growth in your business, whether it’s following too many people on Facebook, being in too many groups on LinkedIn, on too many mailing lists etc.

Give yourself the space to focus. Make the time you spend online quality time so that you can focus.

One mistake I see a lot of my clients make is trying to be in too many online groups at a time – and after a while, they get overwhelmed. While it seems good for being visible, it’s not about being everywhere to get your business seen but to spend quality time connecting with people. Much better to spend time in 3 -5 groups, really engage in those groups and get noticed.

S – Serve

Make your goal service. Remember that “Focus” means you have more time to serve your wonderful team and clients.

We may think we’re wired to do lots of different jobs at once, but the opposite is actually true. Focus makes us happier and less stressed. Focus also means we get more done, and we get to do more of what matters 

Customer Service Innovation

A business will do a better job of providing high-quality goods and services by listening to its employees and by empowering them with opportunities to make a difference…..therefore continuous human capital development is critical regardless of the climate.

For someone who hardly played sport in school, I constantly amaze myself by how I’m inspired by sport. As we exit Customer Service week I think of Serena Williams who has 39 grand slam titles and won the Australian Open when she was 8 weeks pregnant. (If you’ve ever been pregnant you know what a mean feat that is)

She’s known for her accuracy, ‘high-risk play’, plays aggressively and serves aces at critical moments. She isn’t thrown off by variation of circumstances. Like Serena’s playing style, companies today must consistently make bold bets on customer service even in uncertain times.

We are at a point where companies need to aggressively innovate their customer service. Companies that do this will ultimately win more market share. Even though in Zimbabwe our service fares better in the region there is a huge gaping opportunity when it comes to customer service because most companies are simply terrible at it. These investments would require companies to make bold, risky moves and serve like Serena,  in uncertain times.

Today it is too easy to be replicated, to be ripped off — for brands not to continue to evolve and move the needle with transformative growth, register your team for our upcoming 2-day Profits Through Service Workshop and get your Customer Service and Selling Skills upgraded to international best practices.

If Serena can win the Aussie Open in her 1st trimester, you cannot even use our current climate as an excuse to scale down on training, take the risk and serve an ace like Serena!!

Date:             1-2 November 2017

Venue:           Rainbow Towers Hotel

Investment:    $ $200 ($120 for  1 day)

A must attend 2 day Customer Service and Selling Skills Seminar


A leaf from Usain’s Book

“Losing Usain Bolt to athletics is like losing the air. He is an elemental presence, the one figure capable of elevating a humble foot race to a mid-summer blockbuster.”- Oliver Brown

Can this be said of your business or your career?

It has taken me long to get back as I have been nursing my heart over Usain’s low ending, thankfully ManU’s streak has aided in my healing,(I don’t really care what you are quipping back, I can’t hear you.  And I hope we will be nailed to first place like we were nailed to sixth place last season)

I agree with Oliver Brown, the fastest man on earth will be greatly missed by many not just for his speed, his carefree Caribbean swagger and confidence but also for the inspiration he constantly meted out. I pay tribute to the legend by sharing with you my insights;

Your background, challenges and negative experiences do not disqualify you.
In fact, they help you develop grit if you frame them. I keep coming across legends who had no silver spoons in their mouths, not even brass ones and it makes me think that adversity is the perfect flame for greatness. Usain grew up without running water and it needed 48 trips to the river and back to fill up the drums in his home, he halved those trips by carrying 2 buckets at a time and thus built physical strength.

Despite having scoliosis (irregular back curvature, his right leg was 1cm shorter than his left) resulting in many trips to his German doctor, tight hamstrings and extensive physiotherapy, he chose to push and become a living legend.

His speed and height were a mismatched because taller athletes are suited for long distances. Not even the finest biologists can fully explain why Usain at six-foot-five, whose 9.58 for 100m is more than two tenths quicker than the next man who has never committed a doping violation – Maurice Greene, with 9.79 – came to be so fast. Taking 41 strides to cover 100m when most of his rivals needed 44, Bolt saved athletics despite that mismatch at a time when few realised it needed saving, it became more than a sport.

Play to your strengths.
If my mother had her way I would have still been rewriting my O’level maths. Had I not passed Statistics in University she would have still been reminding me of the opportunities I was losing in life because of my O’level Math grade. For his height, six-foot-five, Usain would have excelled at longer distances like 400m and at some point, his coach steered him in that direction but he quickly recoiled and focused on 100m. Bolt was confident enough in his own strengths and abilities that he knew when to accept or ignore feedback. In business, you often find a heavy emphasis on gap-analysis, encouraging executives to focus on improving their weak points. The recipe for success is to do fewer of the things we don’t like and to concentrate on those that we are good at.

Turn setbacks into strengths
‘Coach told me to learn to lose, because by doing so you figure out what you needed to win’, he says. The onset of his Olympic career was marred by failure and was booed at, at some point. If you believe in yourself then losing is part of the training. He kept working at it until he hit Gold. He didn’t blame his background, height or scoliosis, he kept his eyes glued on winning.

Push through pain and complexities.
Usain’s coach taught him to go past the ‘the moment of no return’ a point of pain when you’d rather quit. Going past the moment of no return in life’s challenges is what makes us stronger and legendary. The coach’s assertion is simple, when you feel pain in the race, a level of pain you haven’t reached and surpassed in training, you will falter, but if you have eclipsed it in training you will have a chance of glory. It reminds me of the scripture that says, ‘If you run with the footmen, and they have wearied you, then how can you contend with horses?

It doesn’t matter what space you find yourself in, you can still pick it up today and focus on what is working and push through.

Nobody, not even him, knows quite what comes next. A few nightclub visits, perhaps. All that is certain is that he is shutting down the kind of sporting electricity that might never be reproduced in our lifetimes. Enriching, affirming, one-of-a-kind, Bolt can slip off into his sun-kissed retirement content. For him and for all who watched him, it has been quite the ride.

Usain Bolt masterfully learnt what it means to play to win. You can too!

P.S As you rise to legendary put your personal touch to it!!!
Did I mention another thing about his uniqueness and powerful branding, his farewell was marked with a poignant gesture, as Usain took to the track in odd-coloured shoes: one purple, one gold. Purple denoted the colour of his high school, in Falmouth, Jamaica. Gold defined his pre-eminence ever since: eight Olympic gold medals, world records galore, all securing him the helpless adulation of millions. “Forever fastest,” read the message on his footwear.

‘I AM BOLT!’ A Champion is Still a Champion Even When He Loses

A winner’s DNA remains with them till they return to dust….
As much as I believe that I couldn’t ignore the pit in my stomach let alone the heartache at daybreak. Usain, Usain, Usain, thou wilt always be the greatest!

He has been fighting injuries and chronic conditions throughout his career (scoliosis held him back in his early years). Even while nursing back problems and having a shaky finish in the first round we all hoped he would bow out a winner and so did he. Alas, it was not to be, he was beaten to it by a seemingly undeserving opponent who has been on the ban twice for doping!

So many times in life after we have poured our all at parenting, relationships, career and business an undeserving opponent blindsides us at our weakest point and takes over to enjoy the sweat, tears and blood we would have poured in. Dejected we put our tails between our legs and take the walk of shame as the two cent opinions of friends and foes crowds our weary minds and further burderns our broken heart. Am sure we know how it feels to loose a loved one, a child, a job, a business or a relationship especially when you have been at the helm, working hard, receiving accolades and succeeding… A BOLT in your sphere… Very few survive this and most vanish into oblivion.

Survivers like you and I, as I observed yesterday have the BOLT gene. A rare peerless, unmatched gene, that causes you even after defeat to walk over, hug and congratulate you opponent and then say, “I’ve proved to the world I’m one of the greatest athletes, I don’t think this changes anything. I’ve done my part as an athlete, to uplift the sport and show it’s getting better. I can’t be too disappointed. I did my best. It’s hard to be sad with the energy that the crowd was giving me. They stayed and they shouted and they cheered.”

Despite going down in history as the man who toppled Usain, Gatlin does not have, has never had and will never have the BOLT gene. If he had, he would have not been banned for doping. This gene is the ability to develop a gift in an unrelentingly inspiring way coupled with confidence, self belief and hard work.

Mark my words this is not the end of Usain, this is infact an incredible beginning of a great era because as long as the BOLT gene resides in him, he will excel and still be peerless and unmatched at anything he put his hand to. Because you and I also have the BOLT gene, we are set for greater heights despite current economic, social, politcial, business, career and relationship set backs, we only need to say, ‘I’m still the greatest, I don’t think this setback changes anything!’

Sit tight as I send you more insights on the BOLT gene..

You Can Save Money

Would you be interested if I told you there’s a secret to saving money? Well, it’s true. There are a few secrets that can be used to save money, even if it doesn’t feel like you have any money to save. The bad news is that these secrets have been made public for decades and it’s simply up to you to decide whether or not to use them.

Saving Money Secret #1: Budgeting

First, you need to create a budget. Before you can even dream about saving money you have to know where your money is going. There’s simply no way around it. How can you decide where to make cuts or find extra cash to save if you have no idea where all of your money is going? You can’t. So, it’s time to create a budget. The thing is, you don’t have to make it a chore. In fact, many successful people get through life without tracking every single penny each and every day. You can probably get by doing the same

Initially, you do have to at least sit down and find out where your money is going. How much is being spent on housing, utilities, groceries, debt, and entertainment? Once you have created a clear picture of where your money goes in a typical month you can begin to spot trends and problem areas. After you’ve found the problem areas you’ll have a better idea of where you can cut back and by how much. Then you can use that money to apply to your savings.

Saving Money Secret #2: Paying Yourself First

After you’ve identified where your money is going you should have a few spare dollars to put aside into your savings. That’s a great start, but there’s another secret to saving money: paying yourself first. You’ve probably heard that phrase before, but it’s so common because it works.

If you’re like most people you probably wait until your salary hits your account, you pay the bills, and buy the weekly groceries before deciding how much you can afford to deposit into savings. By then the amount may be small and you’re worried you might need those few dollars later in the week so you avoid putting any money into savings at all. Big mistake. You need to think of your savings just like you would any other bill. When your electricity bill comes each month what do you do? You make sure it gets paid, right? That’s how you need to treat your savings account.

If your goal is to save $100 a month then think of that as a $100 bill that needs to be paid. If you are thinking about this in terms of a bill you’re more likely to make that deposit and build up your emergency fund. Just thinking about your monthly savings as a bill isn’t enough, and that’s where you have to pay yourself first. You need to create an automatic savings plan that will automatically deposit money into your savings account before you even have a chance to spend it. This can be done right through your employer’s direct deposit or with a recurring transfer with your bank. And just like magic, you don’t even miss the money going into savings each week, yet your savings account begins growing over time.

Saving Money Secret #3: Spend Less Than You Earn

This is the holy grail of personal finance, but if you can’t utilize this secret you’ll never be able to save money. You simply have to spend less money than you earn and there’s no way around that. It’s all about cash flow. If you earn $100 and spend $110 you’re now at a -$10. Where does that extra ten dollars come from? Usually it’s borrowed money. And guess what? That borrowed money comes with interest.

That means you’re actually more than ten dollars in the hole. As you begin to do this on a regular basis month after month and with large dollar amounts it’s easy to see how someone can get tens of thousands of dollars in debt, which is exactly why most people feel as if they don’t have any money to save.

You Can Save Money

Do those secrets sound like common sense? They should. Most of us know that we need to budget our money, put money aside for the future, and stay out of debt, but many of us still can’t do it. Unfortunately, short of winning the lottery there are no secrets to building wealth. These three sound money management principles are the foundation of personal finance. One thing is certain. If you can budget your money so that you are spending less than you earn and put some of that money into a savings account before you have time to spend it, you will be able to save money and build wealth.






It is lovely to return to my desk after a long absence as a result of the 2 passions in my life ; fashion and talking(put simply) I was in China for a week ordering stock for my clothing boutique, was home for less than 24 hours then I jetted of to Uganda for a Monitoring and Evaluation  and Learning Workshop organized and hosted by  ACV Kenya (dynamic organization- google them!) The  past few months  have been eventful-  great victories and great disappointments. I did a great job of celebrating and being grateful for the victories and also keeping my head up and staying positive in the face of disappointment. I have just realized though that sometimes to much strength is not good(article for another day) as you can end up making very big mistakes because of the issues you carry in your subconscious(coming soon)
As I woke up from a 6 hour nap (having arrived from Uganda this morning) this lovely warm Saturday afternoon I am looking out at the great views from my  bedroom window and I am thinking how I can learn from my mistakes.
You can only learn from a mistake after you admit you’ve made it. As soon as you start blaming other people and God (or the universe itself) you distance yourself from any possible lesson. But if you courageously stand up and honestly say “This is my mistake and I am responsible” the possibilities for learning will move towards you. Admission of a mistake, even if only privately to yourself, makes learning possible by moving the focus away from blame assignment and towards understanding. Wise people admit their mistakes easily. They know progress accelerates when they do. Some mistakes are not tangible, they can be as simple as losing a life long belief and compromising on your values.
This runs counter to the cultural assumptions we have about mistakes and failure, namely that they are shameful things. We’re taught in school, in our families, or at work to feel guilty about failure and to do whatever we can to avoid mistakes. This sense of shame combined with the inevitability of setbacks when attempting difficult things explains why many people give up on their goals: they’re not prepared for the mistakes and failures they’ll face on their way to what they want. What’s missing in many people’s beliefs about success is the fact that the more challenging the goal, the more frequent and difficult setbacks will be. The larger your ambitions, the more dependent you will be on your ability to overcome and learn from your mistakes.
But for many reasons admitting mistakes is difficult. An implied value in many cultures is that our work represents us: if you fail a test, then you are a failure. If you make a mistake then you are a mistake (You may never have felt this way, but many people do. It explains the behavior of some of your high school or college friends). Like eggs, steak and other tasty things we are given letter grades (A, B, C, D and F) organizing us for someone else’s consumption: universities and employers evaluate young candidates on their grades, numbers based on scores from tests unforgiving to mistakes.
For anyone that never discovers a deeper self-identity, based not on lack of mistakes but on courage, compassionate intelligence, commitment and creativity, life is a scary place made safe only by never getting into trouble, never breaking rules and never taking the risks that their hearts tell them they need to take.
Learning from mistakes requires three things:

  • Putting yourself in situations where you can make interesting mistakes
  • Having the self-confidence to admit to them
  • Being courageous about making changes

The four kinds of mistakes

Stupid: Absurdly dumb things that just happen. Stubbing your toe, dropping your pizza on your neighbor’s fat cat or poking yourself in the eye with a banana.

Simple: Mistakes that are avoidable but your sequence of decisions made inevitable. Having the power go out in the middle of your party because you forgot to pay the rent, or running out of beer at said party because you didn’t anticipate the number of guests.

Involved: Mistakes that are understood but require effort to prevent. Regularly arriving late to work/friends, eating fast food for lunch every day, or going bankrupt at your start-up company because of your complete ignorance of basic accounting.

Complex: Mistakes that have complicated causes and no obvious way to avoid next time. Examples include making tough decisions that have bad results, relationships that fail, or other unpleasant or unsatisfying outcomes to important things.

Moral: Mistakes that involve breaking rules, values and taking risks that your heart tells you you need to make.

(I’m sure you can come up with other categories: that’s fantastic, please share them. But these are the ones you’re stuck with).

I’m leaving all philosophical questions about mistakes up to you. One person’s pleasure is another person’s mistake: decide for yourself. Maybe you enjoy stabbing your neighbor’s cat with a banana, who knows. We all do things we know are bad in the long term, but are ‘oh’ so good in the short term. So regardless of where you stand, I’m working with you. However mistakes are defined in your personal philosophy this should help you learn from them.

Learning from mistakes that fall into the first two categories (Stupid & Simple) is easy, but shallow. Once you recognize the problem and know the better way, you should be able to avoid similar mistakes. Or in some cases you’ll realize that no matter what you do once in a while you’ll do stupid things (e.g. even Einstein stubbed his toes).

But these kinds of mistakes are not interesting. The lessons aren’t deep and it’s unlikely they lead you to learn much about yourself or anything else.

The kind of mistakes you make define you. The more interesting the mistakes, the more interesting the life. If your biggest mistakes are missing reruns of tv-shows or buying the wrong lottery ticket you’re not challenging yourself enough to earn more interesting mistakes.

And since there isn’t much to learn from simple and stupid mistakes, most people try to minimize their frequency and how much time we spend recovering from them. Their time is better spent learning from bigger mistakes. But if we habitually or compulsively make stupid mistakes, then what we really have is an involved mistake.

Involved mistakes

The third pile of mistakes, Involved mistakes, requires significant changes to avoid. These are mistakes we tend to make through either habit or nature. But since change is so much harder than we admit, we often suffer through the same mistakes again and again instead of making the tough changes needed to avoid them.

Difficultly with change involves an earlier point  I made. Some feel that to agree to change means there is something wrong with them. “If I’m perfect, why would I need to change?” Since they need to protect their idea of perfection, they refuse change (Or possibly, even refuse to admit they did anything wrong).

But this is a trap: refusing to acknowledge mistakes, or tendencies to make similar kinds of mistakes, is a refusal to acknowledge reality. If you can’t see the gaps, flaws, or weaknesses in your behavior you’re forever trapped in the same behavior and limitations you’ve always had, possibly since you were a child (When someone tells you you’re being a baby, they might be right).

Another challenge to change is that it may require renewing commitments you’ve broken before, from the trivial “Yes, I’ll try to remember to take the trash out” to the more serious. This happens in any environment: the workplace, friendships, romantic relationships or even commitments you’ve made to yourself. Renewing commitments can be tough since it requires not only admitting to the recent mistake, but acknowledging similar mistakes you’ve made before. The feelings of failure and guilt become so large that we don’t have the courage to try again.

This is why success in learning from mistakes often requires involvement from other people, either for advice, training or simply to keep you honest. A supportive friend’s, mentor’s or professional’s perspective on your behavior will be more objective than your own and help you identify when you’re hedging, breaking or denying the commitments you’ve made.

In moments of weakness the only way to prevent a mistake is to enlist someone else. The biggest lesson to learn in involved mistakes is that you have to examine your own ability to change. Some kinds of change will be easier for you than others and until you make mistakes and try to correct them you won’t know which they are.

How to handle complex mistakes

The most interesting kinds of mistake are the last group: Complex mistakes. The more complicated the mistake you’ve made, the more patient you need to be. There’s nothing worse than flailing around trying to fix something you don’t understand: you’ll always make things worse.

Professional investigators, like journalists, police detectives and doctors, try to get as many perspectives on situations as possible before taking action (Policemen use eyewitnesses, Doctors use exams and tests, scientific studies use large sample sizes). They know that human perception, including their own, is highly fallible and biased by many factors. The only way to obtain an objective understanding is to compare several different perspectives. When trying to understand your own mistakes in complex situations you should work in the same way.

Start by finding someone else to talk to about what happened. Even if no one was within 50 yards when you crashed your best friend’s BMW into your neighbor’s living room, talking to someone else gives you the benefit of their experience applied to your situation. They may know of someone that’s made a similar mistake or know a way to deal with the problem that you don’t.

But most importantly, by describing what happened you are forced to break down the chronology and clearly define (your recollection of) the sequence of events. They may ask you questions that surface important details you didn’t notice before. There may have been more going on (did the brakes fail? Did you swerve to avoid your neighbor’s daughter? etc.) than you, consumed by your emotions about your failure, realized.

If multiple people were involved (say, your co-workers), you want to hear each person’s account of what happened. Each person will emphasize different aspects of the situation based on their skills, biases, and circumstances, getting you closer to a complete view of what took place.

If the situation was/is contentious you may need people to report their stories independently – police investigators never have eyewitness collaborate. They want each point of view to be delivered unbiased by other eyewitnesses (possibly erroneous) recollections. Later on they’ll bring each account together and see what fits and what doesn’t.

Until you work backwards for moments, hours or days before the actual mistake event, you probably won’t see all of the contributing factors and can’t learn all of the possible lessons. The more complex the mistake, the further back you’ll need to go and the more careful and open-minded you need to be in your own investigation. You may even need to bring in an objective outsider to help sort things out. You’d never have a suspect in a crime lead the investigation, right? Then how can you completely trust yourself to investigate your own mistakes?

Here some questions to ask to help your investigation:

  • What was the probable sequence of events?
  • Were their multiple small mistakes that led to a larger one?
  • Were there any erroneous assumptions made?
  • Was it possible to have recognized bad assumptions earlier?
  • Was there information we know now that would have been useful then?
  • What would we do differently if in this exact situation again?
  • How can we avoid getting into situations like this? (What was the kind of situation we wanted to be in?)
  • Was this simply unavoidable given all of the circumstances? A failure isn’t a mistake if you were attempting the impossible.
  • Has enough time passed for us to know if this is a mistake or not?

Moral Mistakes

  • Firstly apologise/ repent to God and to yourself.
  • Follow the introspection in Complex mistakes (above).
  • Ask your self the right questions and answer them very honestly.
  • Forgive yourself
  • Recommit with unwavering faith to you vales and beliefs
  • Move on! Guilt will hamper your progress.

Humor and Courage

No amount of analysis can replace your confidence in yourself. When you’ve made a mistake, especially a visible one that impacts other people, it’s natural to question your ability to perform next time. But you must get past your doubts. The best you can do is study the past, practice for the situations you expect, and get back in the game. Your studying of the past should help broaden your perspective. You want to be aware of how many other smart, capable well meaning people have made similar mistakes to the one you made, and went on to even bigger mistakes, I mean successes, in the future.

One way to know you’ve reached a healthy place is your sense of humor. It might take a few days, but eventually you’ll see some comedy in what happened. When friends tell stories of their mistakes it makes you laugh, right? Well when you can laugh at your own mistakes you know you’ve accepted it and no longer judge yourself on the basis of one single event. Reaching this kind of perspective is very important in avoiding future mistakes. Humor loosens up your psychology and prevents you from obsessing about the past. It’s easy to make new mistakes by spending too much energy protecting against the previous ones. Remember the saying “a man fears the tiger that bit him last, instead of the tiger that will bite him next”.

So the most important lesson in all of mistake making is to trust that while mistakes are inevitable, if you can learn from the current one, you’ll also be able to learn from future ones. No matter when happens tomorrow you’ll be able to get value from it, and apply it to the day after that. Progress won’t be a straight line but if you keep learning you will have more successes than failures, and the mistakes you make along the way will help you get to where you want to go.

The learning from mistakes checklist

  • Accepting responsibility makes learning possible.
  • Don’t equate making mistakes with being a mistake.
  • You can’t change mistakes, but you can choose how to respond to them.
  • Growth starts when you can see room for improvement.
  • Work to understand why it happened and what the factors were.
  • What information could have avoided the mistake?
  • What small mistakes, in sequence, contributed to the bigger mistake?
  • Are there alternatives you should have considered but did not?
  • What kinds of changes are required to avoid making this mistake again?What kinds of change are difficult for you?
  • How do you think your behavior should/would change in you were in a similar situation again?
  • Work to understand the mistake until you can make fun of it (or not want to kill others that make fun).
  • Don’t over-compensate: the next situation won’t be the same as the last.

Here’s to making the

  • 1st biggest mistake
  • stupidest mistake
  • silliest mistake
  • moral mistake
  • complex mistake
  • involved mistake